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I am sure most of us have heard of this concept. It is used a lot in our lingo to refer to different situations for example, relationships. It definitely applies in physics! how about in relationships?   Merriam-Webster  defines  the idiom "opposites attract" as a phrase "used to say that people who are very different from each other are often attracted to each other." I asked some of my friends if they had ever thought of this phrase before in the context of relationships, and NO was the most common answer.  I also asked what they thought of this phrase and if they agree or disagree with it when it comes to relationships.  Most of them disagree while a few agreed to some extent. Those who agree say it’s more fun when you are opposites of each other so there is always something interesting to pick from each other.  On the other hand those who disagree say that the likelihood of bumping heads is very high. You will never find common ground and will definitely not las

The world we live in right now is very socially constructed and the phrase “Show me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you” is very popular in every society. I have believed this phrase to be true for a very long time. This is until I interacted with different people from different societies, beliefs and of different religion.  The environment we grow in really shapes the kind of people we become. The way of life our societies are accustomed to shapes the people we become. Even the families we grow up in shape who we are. Do not get me wrong... the phrase has a lot of truth to it especially if its easy for you to fall victim of peer pressure for example becoming a thief or drug user if you hang around such characters.  But the basis of this writing is based off of human understanding. I feel that it’s important to understand people individually because each person has a story of what makes them who they are.  If you remain conscious to human understanding the phrase becomes

  Are we dumb? Or brainwashed? How else do we keep making the same wrong choices? Choices that don't help us, Choices that don't improve our livelihoods, What happened to merit? What do they offer us during campaign that makes us sell our futures? Are we contributing to a sustainable development for future generations? What situation are you bringing your child in to? Are you sure this is what you want for them? We are failing ourselves as a country, do we even deserve to complain? It takes a-lot of will, sacrifice and integrity to rise as a state Greed has become a normal way of life Are you asking yourself how you are contributing? Before you cast a vote are you 100% sure it's on merit? Before you receive or give a bribe, you are saying yes to a dead future? Would you want your child to miss an opportunity because of something you helped breed? How can you want progressiveness and growth if you are contributing to the problem? Who told you that your tribe is more importan

  I got to Bangkok from the islands with just four days to spare before I had to fly out to my country. It was a requirement for the airline (EMIRATES) and my country to have the PCR COVID-19 test before arrival. After making so many calls to different hospitals to make inquiries on whether they offer PCR tests and how much it would cost, I finally found an affordable place. The price for most hospitals were either 3500bht or 6500bht but the (Urban Institute for disease prevention and control) charges 2700bht for the test. This is the cheapest option I found and results are given in 24 hours.   Please share this with your friends or anyone else who might need this information. 

Hey sis You are beautiful Your mistakes don't define you You are a rare gem Your brown skin is exotic You are a queen Your love is pure You are unforgettable Your words are full of thought You speak highly of yourself Your energy is contagious Hey Sis series by Ms Carol other reads https://theehangoutbuddy.blogspot.com/2020/05/dear-us-black-people-let-this-be-last.html https://theehangoutbuddy.blogspot.com/2020/05/dear-woman-of-my-time_27.html https://theehangoutbuddy.blogspot.com/2020/05/lock-down-feels-how-are-you-feeling-is.html https://theehangoutbuddy.blogspot.com/2020/05/still-i-stand.html

Nikiona karau nafaa kufeel safe instead nafeel scared Badala ya kuwategemea tunawaogopa Badala ya kutulinda wanatuwinda Badala ya kutulinda wanatumurder Badala ya kutulinda wanatuiba  Siwezi make report, Utumishi kwa wote imegeuka biashara Naenda aje kuseek justice kwa leaders of injustice? Karibu kenya where tunaogopa karau more than covid-19 Karibu kenya where Mtoto wa 13 years ana-threaten karau ako na gun Karibu kenya where jamaa anajaribu kuzika the wife analala kwa streets na coffin ya the wife juu ya karau Karibu kenya where mwenye hana pesa ya mask anachapwa to death na karau juu amebreak curfew akitafuta hiyo pesa Karibu kenya where Karau ananichapa hajavaa hiyo mask.  Karibu kenya where Navunjwa pua na kuibiwa na karau na nikienda kureport kwa police station nafukuzwa kama criminal Karibu kenya where a 2 mnth old baby ana fight for his life kwasababu ya tear gas ya karau Karibu kenya where Kijana ana-suffocate to death kwasababu ya tear gas ya k

Dear us black people What you are about to read is not new news to us, it is a wake up call These are not new words/actions to us all, we have heard AND done it all before!  And I am sick and tired of being sick and tired! No time is good time to say what most of us don’t want to hear especially now! but... Is this the time we finally listen and DO BETTER? I am angry at us and angry for us  I am ANGRY AT US because of.. Black on black violence  Black on black mugging  Black on black killing  Black on black disrespect  Black on black crime Black on black RACISM We don’t help or do better amongst ourselves  How will they treat us better when we don’t treat each other better? How will they respect us when we don’t respect each other? How will we grow if we don’t uplift each other? How will they STOP with the racism when we fight the racism with racism? How will we have a voice when we CHOOSE not to vote because think we cannot win the fight? How many

Dear Woman Of My Time Fall in love with yourself, Always speak kindly to yourself even when you fall short, NO ONE IS PERFECT. Never settle and open your heart to the possibility of real love nomatter how many times its broken, Your ability to love will be stretched in ways you didn’t think possibly exist, You will forgive more times than you are willing to, You will want to forget and maybe in some cases you will but when you don’t, cut them off! Stand 10 toes down in the truth of who you are and what you believe in, You are complicated, but isn't that more fun! Never give up or settle to fit into “societal standards” Your dream, however crazy it is.. is reason enough to keep you going, Feminism is great, but remember equality is neither equity nor similarity, Learn to walk in heels if you want to not because someone else wants you to, Remember to always leave a little sparkle wherever you go, Put some money away and TRAVEL, see the world from your eyes, You are sup

How do i forget the unforgettable? It has been a while, should i be okay? Stop! Stop! I have screamed to my heart and mind. I promise i have tried.. i really have but... How do i let go of the synchronization of our hearts? The deep dance of our souls, A love so deep it could not be defined, "why is it so hard for you? "Why can't you just move on?" They ask. How do i make them understand when i myself can't? How do i make my heart heal and move on from the death of what we had? Why should i now say that it was what was? How do i speak of us as a past? The perfection of our love is gone, Torn away by life and distance, Do you still think of me? Us? Will we ever get it back? Do you still think of me at the exact time i think of you? Do you remember every moment we shared? I'm i still important to you? Does your heart now belong to someone else? My mind is racing and my heart is breaking. How do i make it all go away?  how do i not cry? I

I feel lost I thought I had it all somewhat figured out I believe that I knew who I was I was sure of the path I was taking I had trust in my journey But why do I feel lost? I feel lost Is it because of the decisions I have made? Is it because the world suddenly turned upside down? Is it because of the unpredictable future? Is it because I suddenly lost all my money and I don’t know how it happened? Is it because I was too blinded by my new found comfort zone? Now I am stuck in this place for I don’t know how long I am stuck in the running thoughts of my mind, how do I slow them down? I am stuck in all the emotions I am feeling, should I let them take over? I feel lost I try to talk myself out of them but I don’t think it’s working I try to remember who I was before I was here but I can’t Who I’m i? Who I’m I? I repeat to myself continuously Should I just give in and adjust to this new reality? I'm I justified to feel this way? Is it time for me to find and fol

Dear mama This is not just for Mother’s Day, it is for EVERYDAY I still don’t understand how you do what you do! You have been solid since birth You have raised me without hesitation or complaints You have shared yourself to me amazingly! You have toiled tirelessly to give me everything out have You have given yourself to me over and over again You have loved me without having to say it You have turned all my frowns to smiles You have made me who I am today I am grateful because I have you I am blessed because I have you I am content because I have you I am loved because I have you I am prayed for because I have you I am sorry for all the times I complained I am sorry for all the times I didn’t understand I am sorry for all the times I felt entitled I am sorry for all the times I took you for granted I am sorry for not saying thank you enough I am sorry for not saying I LOVE YOU enough I am sorry for not being there for you enough You are love You are a que

Dear woman of my time You were born at the perfect time But You grew up in confusing times Let me break it down for you... Social media came up Make up industry came up Cosmetic surgery came up Love and marriage lost its meaning Music mostly lost its meaning.. now its just gang gang and violent isshh! But woman of my time.. you are the most WOKE and empowered You understand the previous and present generations You are not worried about make up and the hype behind it You love your hair natural You know when to be sexy without being "extra" Social media fuckery doesn't affect you.. you understand its mostly not real life You are open minded yet still reserved Your parents come to you for advice You understand what mental health is You believe in therapy You understand why the society is different You fill the gap that is missing in other generations Dear woman of my time you are living like you are supposed to. Keep doing what you are doing! Letters

"I was sexually assaulted!" How do i even say it to my parents and mates? How do i start the conversation? Yes i was drunk.. Will they understand? I only had one glass of vodka diluted with sprite Was i drugged? What did the culprit add in my drink? You were my friend, of course you can stay over We were both drunk anyway.. but you were conscious I trusted you to get me home safe Do you even realize what you did? To be honest, i myself just recently discovered that it was assault (years later) Why did i let it happen? Was it my fault? I carry the hurt, shame and a secret that is soo hard to tell I forgave you and still kept you as a friend Our society is not open to such conversations, so how do i hold a grudge when YOU don't know any better? Dear African girl, i am sorry you have to endure and carry some burdens alone. How soon will this conversations begin? Will the generation of my time atleast educate their children? Unanswered questions series by