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Does the phrase “Opposites attract” apply in relationships?

I am sure most of us have heard of this concept. It is used a lot in our lingo to refer to different situations for example, relationships. It definitely applies in physics! how about in relationships? 


Merriam-Webster defines the idiom "opposites attract" as a phrase "used to say that people who are very different from each other are often attracted to each other."


I asked some of my friends if they had ever thought of this phrase before in the context of relationships, and NO was the most common answer. 

I also asked what they thought of this phrase and if they agree or disagree with it when it comes to relationships. 


Most of them disagree while a few agreed to some extent. Those who agree say it’s more fun when you are opposites of each other so there is always something interesting to pick from each other. 

On the other hand those who disagree say that the likelihood of bumping heads is very high. You will never find common ground and will definitely not last for the long run. 


I personally disagree. You may be opposites in character but when it comes down to values (which to me are the most important in any relationship)... you both have to share similar values for the relationship to work. 


I also agree that one may admire some values in someone else that they lack or are not super inspired to take up but still acknowledge that they are important as you build your life together.


Random writes by Ms. Carol

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